What’s your story? I love hearing people’s stories on the radio or on TV. To hear what’s happened to them in their life and how it’s significant to them, i.e. that it’s changed them. I wonder why that’s so interesting and inspiring to us? It must be that it resonants with our own experience or it’s something we would like to happen to us. What events or experiences in my life have completely changed me? That if I’d not done them my life would have taken a completely different course.
The choice or decision I made early on in High School to not bother to work…..I don’t remember this conscience decision but I certainly had the report cards “could do better” every year. Why did I not try to do better I wonder? I certainly wasn’t really interested in the subjects which didn’t help and the social side of school overshadowed the work. Of course when you’re young you don’t think about how it will effect your life in the future. However I can’t imagine I would have ever been a brain-box but my career may have had more direction and intention I suppose if I’d have focused on the work.
My decision to leave England at 20 and go to Poland for three years was a huge decision and one I have never regretted. The experiences I had and the person I became as a result I believe has had a huge impact on my life. It’s hard to believe that was over 20 years ago now as I can remember it like yesterday, and that’s maybe because the transformation in me was so great. Becoming my own person away from my brilliant family, experiencing the ups and downs of living in a foreign country, and most importantly feeling that I had a mission and purpose.
Having an emotional breakdown at 23 years of age changed the course of my life. If this hadn’t of happened my plan was to still be in Poland. Who knows what my life would have been like if I had stayed?! I’ll never know. But I do know the things that happened after set me on a course that has such variety and richness in it – I know it was the right thing to come home.
Eventually going into management for a large corporate IT business. This was the time when my ‘work’ skills began to be honed. Unlike most people I guess that I went to school with who knew what they wanted to do early on – this experience refined the desire in me to help others grow and develop. My coaching courses and certification was life-changing too. For the first time probably I found something that seemed to fit me. Again having a purpose and a way to express that purpose was amazing.
Having my children through adoption. Of course infertility was a journey in itself that’s probably the hardest thing I’ve had to face so far (which isn’t bad to get this far without anything mega bad happening). Being an adopter has again given me purpose and vision. The most challenging job I’ve ever had but also the most life-changing. Marriage of course is up there too with the life-changing moments along with my father passing away. Moments in time that have a lasting impact.
What I do know looking back over my life – there has been good and bad in every event and experience in my life. You can’t separate them out so easily. But what they all have in common is that they have influenced the course I’ve taken and that I know I’ve been present in every one of those experiences. That sounds a funny thing to say, as of course I’ve been present – it’s my life – but sometimes things happen to you and around you and it can feel like it’s happening to someone else. I know I have fully lived. What a great thing to be able to say I guess? Even if I died now at 43 I know I have had a full and rewarding life with lots of challenge, lots of failures and successes and plenty of adventure.