Letting go and holding on

Tug of war

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on” – Henry Ellis

There are many decisions we have to make every day.  What breakfast to eat, what to wear, what to do with our time, where to go, who to see – loads of things that seem quite small and insignificant. There are also the decisions we take about our attitudes, feelings and perspectives that we will adopt for that day or in any given situation.  There are many decisions on what to let go of and what to hold onto.

Since my life changed dramatically when our children came nearly four years ago there are decisions daily that I have to make and this quote has made me reflect on what those things are – some small and some quite huge and very difficult to do – so here’s some of my list:

Letting go:-

Of the expectations I had of fitting in with my other Mum friends.

Of having time for myself and being able to do what I want to do.

Of my inhibitions and laziness – so that I can enjoy my kids.

Of being a perfect Mum.

Of having perfect kids.

Of being able to control how each day turns out.

Holding onto:-

The hope that what we are doing now will be the right thing in the end.

The new positive relationships through adoption.

The precious moments of each day when my kids make me smile.

The sense of rightness about being a Mum.

My sense of humour.

The understanding that I can control my reactions and responses to their anxiety.


I could actually list a million things I’m letting go of every day and holding onto everyday – what about you?

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